Triggers May Lead To Transformations

Triggers May Just Lead To Transformation...

Ya know that hella uncomfortable feeling you get when someone says or does something that is absolutely jarring to you?

Irritation, indignation, and a sense of self righteousness arises..

And fast.

We go from happy, joyous, and free to bitchy, annoyed, and closed off in as little as one short moment...

Why do you think this is?

Why in the world would we consciously allow thoughts, opinions, and perspectives of others to potentially disrupt our peace and/or ruin our entire day?

It’s like handing our power of choice right on over to the very person that said/did/or acted in the way that jarred us out of our contentment in the first place.

After all, having the power of choice is indeed one of our many super powers!

And yet, its not as simple as it seems...

These triggers are not just something we can ‘turn off.’

We can’t just be like, “Alright triggers, you irritate the piss outta me and I’m done with your ass!”

Holy goodness sometimes I wish it were that easy, but alas, I have found that is not the case..

Instead triggers originate deep within our subconscious And unconscious mind.

In a sense we can often look at triggers as being our road map to finding our deeper truth and therefore finally take a look at some things that have been hiding in the depths of our subconscious mind awaiting the day they’d become noticed, nurtured, and lovingly brought to the light.

To experience triggers is not a ‘bad’ thing and it in no way shape or form means you are a ‘bad’ person.

In all of my 33, (almost 34) years on the planet I’ve yet to meet someone whom does not get triggered from time to time or has never had one in their entire life.

It’s a mechanism that allows us to learn more about ourselves!

Listen, I’m not trying to make these little buggers out to be pretty unicorn horns when in fact the reality is they’re more close to a unicorn fart because of the somewhat awkward and uncomfortable feeling they evoke, yet there’s no denying that if we follow the road map that these mechanisms show us it may lead to our very own personal transformation.

So check it out, here’s an example:

Mallory and Janie has been best friends for a decade now and Mallory decides she wants to take a trip to the Bahamas.

She calls up Janie as she always does when she makes the decision to take a trip expecting Janie to be super happy and down to join the fun as she always does.

Except this phone call doesn’t go as Mallory expects it to at all..

Instead, Janie explains to Mallory that she’s saving up her money for that white Jeep she’s been wanting for the last couple of years.

Mallory is triggered within an instant.

She’s frustrated and annoyed that Janie would be so selfish because she expects Janie knows how stressed she’s been and how bad she needs a getaway.

Whilst Janie feels triggered as well in a very similar fashion, her BF Mall knows how hard she’s been working to save up this money for her new Jeep and feels that Mallory is the one here being selfish...

There’s no one size fits all triggers, they come big and explosive and they also come small and we may think of them as petty, but nevertheless they come to us for a reason.

Triggers show us where we are.

For Mallory it may be showing her that she could use a bit more compassion, support, and understanding for her best friend.

And for Janie it may be showing her that she could use the power of her voice more with Mallory to make some boundaries and communicate with Mallory exactly how she feels instead of going along with what Mallory wants to do most of the time.

I have found triggers to be a very personal response and thus because we don’t all have the some types and kinds we can talk it out with trusted loved ones, yet we must rely most heavily on what our own intuitive intelligence is communicating within us.

And so when one pops in throughout your week, get curious!

Don’t judge it, or yourself.

Take a look at it and follow that road map.

What is this trigger trying to tell me about myself?

Do I have a belief I am holding onto in a dogmatic way that’s not allowing me to find understanding in this moment?

Am I being biased because I don’t have any experience with what this person is saying?

It may help to journal your thoughts about the triggering event, or take some time in stillness to just sit with it that way we allow time for our innate intuitive intelligence to go to work.

Always remember, no matter what the trigger, and what you uncover on your road to knowing More of You, there is nothing ‘bad’ or ‘innately wrong’ with you in any way shape, or form.

This is all apart of the human experience and thus a work in progress.

Allow space for your humanness my dear.

And please, Please, have a little grace with yourself during this process of exploration and uncovering.

Your happiness, peace of mind, and contentment is so very worth this work and this truth seeking.

Happy Travels!

Xoxo

Britt